From Hidden Hurt to Healing
The support one person can offer another is deeply coded into us all. As a Therapist I work with clients to support and encourage their development within many areas of their lives, from addiction and depression to support with personality disorders and anxiety. I work in an integrative style, with elements of psychodynamic and behavioural therapeutic styles. I have found that therapy can provide a stable foundation for you to build on whatever your hopes and dreams. Whether you need support to deal with a short term problem or engage in long term therapeutic work I believe that I can help.
Common ways Anger can Manifest
Here are some ways people often experience anger (though this is not exhaustive):
- Frequent irritability, outbursts, or shouting
- Long periods of internal anger (rumination, resentment, hostility)
- Turning anger inward — self-criticism, shame, self-harm
- Passive-aggressive behaviour (silence, sarcasm, withdrawing)
- Physical symptoms: tension, headaches, rapid heartbeat, digestive upset
- Relationship strain: conflict, distance, avoidance, mistrust
- Guilt, regret, or embarrassment after an outburst
Anger can feel uncontrollable because it often has deeper roots. Some of the factors that fuel it include:
Why Anger Gets Difficult to Manage
- Stress overload & burnout
when we are already stretched, small triggers feel huge - Unresolved past hurts or trauma
old wounds prime us to react strongly - Beliefs and expectations
“I shouldn’t have to tolerate this,” “they’re disrespecting me,” “they don’t care,” etc. - Poor emotional awareness
difficulty recognising early signs of anger or what lies beneath it - Skill gaps
we may lack alternative ways to express or regulate strong emotions - Avoidance or suppression
pushing down anger often causes it to erupt later with greater force
Why It’s Worth Addressing Now?
If left unaddressed, anger can:
- Damage close relationships
- Contribute to anxiety, depression, or health issues
- Erode self-respect and self-trust
- Lead to isolation, conflict avoidance, or emotional numbing
- Undermine your goals and sense of peace.
By learning to engage with anger you can:
- Restore healthier relationships
- Reclaim emotional balance
- Develop more adaptive responses to frustration and conflict
- Understand the deeper needs underlying anger
What Therapy Can Do to Help
- Slow things down and notice patterns
We’ll track how (when, where, with whom) your anger arises. Over time you begin to see recurring triggers and cycles. - Explore what lies under the anger
Often anger hides sadness, fear, shame, or disappointment. By gently uncovering these layers, we can understand what really needs attention. - Learn emotional regulation tools
Techniques (mindfulness, breath work, grounding) can help you pause before reacting, and choose more fitting responses.
- Develop assertive communication
You’ll practise ways to express boundaries, assert needs, and speak from calm rather than conflict. - Shift unhelpful beliefs and narratives
Together we’ll challenge rigid rules (e.g. “I must always be in control”) and open up to more flexible, self-compassionate perspectives. - Practice in real life & integrate change
Therapy is not just talk... it’s gradual application and reflection. We'll work with your real challenges and support you to try new ways forward.
Who Might Benefit from This Work
You may find this helpful if you:
- Feel anger is dominating parts of your life
- Regret acting in ways you later dislike
- Want more control over how you respond
- Struggle with long-term resentment
- Want healthier, more respectful relationships
- Are curious about what your anger is trying to tell you